Status: In A Relationship

If you don't see yourself in a long-term relationship with a girl, don't court her.

The same goes for girls. Don't agree to be his girlfriend.
I mean, what's the point of being in a relationship if that's the case?

It's sad that most people nowadays treat relationships like a game. It's like: I like you now so you have to be my girlfriend/boyfriend. And if it doesn't work out, they break up, and that's that.
In most cases, the intention is merely to have that someone to himself.
This isn't what they'd like to call love. It is selfishness.
One can never have somebody for himself. Even when you marry, she can never be entirely yours.

So my point is, the status of being in a relationship has lost its meaning for some people. Or maybe it is because they do not fully understand what it truly means to be in a relationship.

Strangers, Again

Strangers, Again  ~from Wongfu Productions (YouTube)

This video practically explains the stages that every relationship goes through.

I really love everything about this film: the story, the script, how it was very realistic. It shows by how many people responded to it and it got over 3million views in just 5 days.
This makes you really think about relationships and I believe people should watch it.

I personally loved every bit of this video, but my most fave lines are as follows:

 ‎"Being comfortable isn't necessarily bad. It's when we could truly be ourselves. But it depends on what you do with that comfort. Some use it positively, continuing to work at their relationship and grow together, but others allow it to create distance." ~

 ‎"I think that if life separates us and we end up in totally different places, we'll always remember when our paths aligned for this period of time. And I'll be thankful for that. And hope that wherever you are, you'll be thankful too. And I think that's the best we can wish for." ~

Regarding the first statement I posted, it's like after a couple has become comfortable with each other, after they've been accustomed to each other, it's like the relationship gets boring. [watch more from the vid]

On the second statement, it hit right through me because I said something like this when my ex-boyfriend and I broke up.

You can't always land with the right person the first time, but I believe what's important is that, for a time in your life, you have been very happy and that certain person has been a part of your happiness. You'll look back and realize that the relationship you had wasn't a mistake but a part of what will become you. [on the vid: "Do you realize there are only two options for our future together? It's either we break up or get married."]

Something Useful

QUOTES

"If you give up too soon, you'll never know what you're missing. Don't stop when you're tired. Stop when you're done."

"Heaven is not for people who are better than the rest, but for people who sincerely love and try to become better than what they are."

Classroom Thoughts

This was a poem I wrote two years ago.


Class hours go by so slowly
I can't help but feel so lonely
Nothing is getting into my head
I wish I was back in my bed.

I hope I see you today
'Cuz that'll make me okay
For even just the sight of you
Can take away all the blues.

My mind is blank, I step outside
And there you are, waiting for a ride
I smile and continue to gaze
At the sight of your lovely face.

My day is now complete
You can tell by my heartbeat
All the longing and all the pain
Then slowly fade away.


:)

Significant Other.

Soul mate? Maybe. I believe that the one who really is for you is someone who complements you. More than just being able to cheer you up, make you happy, or even accept you for who you are, your significant other should bring out the best in you. He should be able to make yourself want to be better and actually be better.

He won't give us something we can't handle.

In last night's episode of Mara Clara, there was a part where Mara's mom, Susan, was praying for her daughter's recovery. I began to think: She had been through a lot of hardships since the beginning of the show. It was really hard to see her undergo yet another painful moment and shed more tears. And then it struck me. Susan's character is that of a strong woman. Even if she was physically and emotionally put to test a lot of times, she had remained steadfast. The eventual passing of Mara would indeed crush her heart but we all know she will be able to survive it.

In the same way, I believe God does not give us tasks or hardships to go through if He knows we cannot do it. Even if at times, the situation or problem we are facing seems to loom big over us, we must instill in our minds that He will guide us through everything just as long as we keep the faith. We must not give up because He Himself believes we can do it. We must remember this always and never lose hope even when nothing seems to be going right.

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By the way, for those who are wondering, I am Roman Catholic. :)

Compatibility's how you make it.

So you're an Aquarius and I'm a Cancer. The stars say we're not compatible. Even worse, those heavenly bodies say we're the worst signs to be paired in the whole Zodiac. You're adventurous and an out-there kind of person while I'm clingy and emotional. You need space, I need security. It's said that we're total opposites when it comes to what we need from relationships. But hey, enough with the negative. I've read a lot of those, believe me. Yet none of those will dishearten me because I know you are someone I want to be keeping in my life.

Both of us have already noticed our differences, and it does get me thinking, too. In the end, I'm always reminded of the times when we talk and we understand each other so well. And I really appreciate it that I can talk to you. I still remember before when you told me that there are things it seems only us can comprehend.

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 I have told you that I feel like I'm not being a girlfriend to you. I think I can explain that thought now. It's like this: I'm emotional and clingy, and you don't like emotional and clingy. I think it's because I'm naturally like that, and for me to not be like that, it feels, well, unnatural. Still complicated? Yeah I thought so too.

You know, our relationship has taught me things. And it isn't easy. I was used to certain things and when I was exposed to the "not-clingy" ways, it felt different.

"Cancer's constant need for love, attention and security may be too much for the Aquarian to live with, while the Aquarian's excessive need for freedom may appear to Cancer as a sign of detachment."

I did go through some emotional turmoils (? - pretty heavy term, I think) and a hell lot of confusion. Still, I tried to understand everything. I reasoned out to myself, even sometimes I simply wouldn't think about it. Also, I'm not so much with the "constant need .." blahs anymore. As much as possible, I try not to, as to not smother you.

So yes, when everything was telling me it's a no-no, I decided to ignore them and let us decide for ourselves.

I know we'll have our share of misunderstandings but I believe we can get through all of them together, just like we did with the ones that already came.

I have faith in us and I'm willing to stand by you no matter what. I cannot promise that I will be perfect as there will be times that my patience will not be as long as I want it to be. But for whatever, I will try my very best to be understanding and be there for you.